Responsibilities of the Wife

1. The Wife Must Guide The Home:

    A. Authority to guide: 1 Tim. 5:14 (the wife must have the freedom to make decisions in the realm of homemaking; she must be unencumbered by the husband)

    B. Older women should teach homemaking: Titus 2:4-5 (the woman's duty to the family is characterized by domestication)

    C. Helping the husband: (Note from Lesson #2, 3., C.: The wife may assist the husband: Prov. 31:16, 18, 24 [the virtuous woman is seen as helping provide a living for her family; this is not required of her but it is permitted] such help is not wrong unless it prevents her from performing her duties as a homemaker)

2. The Wife Must Submit To Her Husband: Eph. 5:22

    A. Treating him with respect: Eph. 5:33 (the wife must treat the husband with reverence and respect, just as the christian respects Christ)

    B. Submission to promote godliness: 1 Pet. 3:1-6 (the woman's submission can persuade the husband to serve God)

    C. Submission is not ugly: 1 Pet. 5:5 (submission in one way or another is a big part of the christian life; Christ submitted to death, is this ugly?)

3. The Wife Must Be Encouraging:

    A. Her original purpose: Gen. 2:18, 1 Cor. 11:9 (woman was originally created for the purpose of providing companionship for the man and fulfilling his needs)

    B. Not nagging: Prov. 27:15, Prov. 21:19 (if you discourage and fail to support your husband, he is better off without you)

    C. It can destroy him: Jdgs. 16:16 (Samson was so discouraged by Delilah he wanted to die; the woman holds a great power either for her husbands benefit or destruction) 

4. The Wife Must Be Unselfish:

    A. The wife must gratify her husband: 1 Cor. 7:1-4 (rendering due benevolence relates to the concept of providing physical pleasure)

    B. Sex must not be a weapon: 1 Cor. 7:5 (denying the spouse their due cannot yield good fruit; Satan will tempt in times of prolonged abstinence)

    C. Compared to a water well: Prov. 5:15-23 (God's will is that the husbands sexual desire be satisfied by his wife rather than fornication; a man cannot drink water from his well if the well has run dry; be sensitive to your partner's needs)